Steven Kaufman's blog

Happiness is not to be pursued, but must be created by the Individual who wants it. One can try and pursue happiness, and in that pursuit one may on occasion seem to find it, but as often as not, or perhaps more often, one seems to find instead the opposite, i.e., unhappiness.

You can stand on a ladder and go neither up nor down. However, the relation of the Individual to their more fundamental Individuality or Self is not like this. That is, there in no neutral position that an Individual can adopt relative to their more fundamental Individuality. The relation between the Individual and their more fundamental Individuality is always one of either allowing or resistance, i.e., flow in alignment with or in opposition to the flow of their Self.

All experience is the product of a relation in which the Individual that is apprehending the experience is involved. All experience, in its wantedness or unwantedness, is a reflection of the Individual's mode of being as allowing or resistant, a reflection of whether the Individual is choosing to flow with or against their more fundamental Individuality or Self as that Individual is involved in the relation that is creating the particular experience it is, in that moment, apprehending.

All experience is the product of some relation of Existence to Itself. More specifically, all experience is the product of some relation of an Individual Existence to some other part or aspect of Existence, as that product is apprehended from the Individual's side of the relation. Thus, all experience is the product of a relation in which the Individual that is apprehending the experience is involved. Therefore, in the absence of the Individual's involvement in a particular relation, there is no particular experience created and apprehended by that Individual.